Welcome!

You made it to the place where you can stay updated and informed on our family’s journey! We are adopting! After a year of completing all the required tasks, we are now just waiting for the “call”, as it is said.  Becoming parents was always a destination Pat and I knew we would arrive to individually before we even knew each other.  Then the universe brought the two of us together and a new, beautiful destination of being parents together was the journey we embarked on and walking towards currently. Though there were many seasons of being impatient, frustrated, or even wondering if it would ever be something to arrive to, we are grateful for the reminders of how everything happens at just the right time. When we become parents, we will have over 12 years of marriage and 16 years of partnership together. Many years of growing, learning, reconnecting, changing, supporting, living life, and fighting for the life we desire. We both have years of counseling and therapy individually that have not only healed and brought light to parts of us as individuals that not only make us better partners for each other, but better parents for our children.  

We are in our 40’s and have had the privilege of having the wild, fun, wreckless, late nights, later mornings, completing college, experience careers of choice, make friends, lose friends, find our people, explore new hobbies, and have achieved so much in every aspect one can achieve. In this waiting process, we have been able to provide space for our family in ways that others have not had access or ability to. We feel, instead of impatience, prepared, willing, able, and an unbelievably eager in wanting for our family to be united. And the best part is the life we get to live, adventures to experience, and dreams that are yet to be chased and achieved.

Like our announcement stated, we are in the waiting period. How the process with Gladney works, is that we, in simple terms, are on a waiting list. Currently we are #124 out of #142 families waiting for placement in the Domestic Infant Adoption Program. This means our birthmother will connect with us from any state in the U.S. When it is our turn for our profile to be shared with birthmothers waiting to match for placement, we will be contacted and made aware that the agency will share our profile to a birth mother or mothers. Next, if the birthmother is feeling drawn to us, there’s a connection made for the two of us to communicate and then either a “match” is made, or it isn’t. If it isn’t, then the process starts over. If a match is made, then it becomes official and the relationship and communication based on both parties agreed terms/boundaries begins. This is mediated and done with Gladney social workers alongside both parties. The hopeful journey is that the relationship blossoms with us all getting to know each other, being partners during the pregnancy through birth, and staying in the relationship as the child grows. There are possibilities that we can match with a mother, and she can terminate our match at any time before birth. There are possibilities that we can match, have failed matches, many times, before we are able to meet our little one. We could get a match this week, next month, or next year.

We are aware of the heartaches that can occur on this road. So, this waiting period is also for us to get realllll good and grounded with ourselves, self care, shed what energies don’t serve us, and fully lean into energies of love, excitement, and support so that if and when grief comes, we are rooted in the work of taking care even in the unknown.  

Thank you for being a support of this journey with us. Your love, curiosity, and thoughtfulness towards our family is greatly appreciated. 

Feel free to ask us questions anytime, anywhere. Stay tuned for the next update!